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Samuel A CainHonor your father and mother (this is the first commandment with a promise), that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land. (Ephesians 6:2-3 ESV)

Her children rise up and call her blessed; (Proverbs 31:28 ESV)

My wife and I have recently moved from Hickory, North Carolina to Eastover, North Carolina. Eastover is a community east of the Cape Fear River. During the 1800’s, it was once known as Flea Hill. This is where I grew up.

Why was it called Flea Hill? According to what I heard growing up and John A. Oakes’ The Story of Fayetteville, The Story of Fayetteville and The Upper Cape Fear, there was a tavern located here under which hogs and goats slept. The fleas lived where they could get to the hogs and goats – and, I suppose, the unsuspecting traveler. See more about the Town of Eastover at eastovernc.com.

My ancestor, Samuel R. Cain, (Born: 1815 – Bladen County, NC) moved to Flea Hill and married Nancy Jarrett (Born: December 12, 1818) in 1841. Needless to say, the roots of my family have been deep in Flea Hill (now Eastover, NC) for almost 180 years. So much for family history . . .

I have not lived in Eastover, except for brief visits, for the last 39 years. It has changed a lot, but it is a sweet feeling to be home. We live with my 86-year-old mother in our family home. My mother is a very special person who is a joy to be around. It is a blessing that my wife and I are retired and our children are grown. Otherwise, I do not know if we could have returned here – but, God makes ways.

1 Timothy 5:8 tells us:

“If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

I have thought a lot about this verse and its meaning over the last few years since my father died. My mom does not need my financial support and she is not an invalid. However, she does need company and a little help and she does not want to leave her home. What we can do is “provide” mom with company, help, and the ability to live in her home as long as God wills.

We are not seeking anyone’s praise nor to assign guilt to anyone who does not do the same as we. We recognize that what we are doing would be extremely difficult for a lot of people to do. I simply think that our circumstances have come about as a providential blessing and I praise God for the opportunity.

Consider the words of Paul in 1 Timothy 5:4:

But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.

Children and grandchildren should honor their parents and grandparents by making a “return” for the care and love given to them as children. How this is done is a personal decision and, in the “sight of God”, this would certainly be “pleasing”. May we continue to grow in the school of Christ. Lord, help us all to be good students!

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  1. May God bless your mom and you and your wife through this move!


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